Whether it’s stopping smoking, losing weight, giving up gambling or some other addiction, they all involve making changes in your life.
Part of you wants to quit and yet you continue to smoke or eat calories you don’t need. Some people stay for years with a partner who is destructive to them either emotionally or physically - sometimes both. One explanation is that you’ve just no willpower. But that can’t be right because in other aspects of your life and at other times you’ve had enormous willpower - so what’s going on?
The flip side of the coin to giving something up is having a desire to do something - then never getting round to doing it; not to give something up but to take something up. People talk about motivation, the lack of it and/or losing it - like it’s just rolled out of reach under the settee. My experience is that it’s often more interesting than that. Generally, doing, whatever it is you've been putting off comes first and then motivation turns up, rather than vice-versa.
There’s usually something about the new change not “fitting;” there’s a clash between two conflicting desires. The tricky bit is to help people come up with an elegant and effective way of making the “fit” in a way that’s tailored to them.
Hypnotherapy can be an effective and efficient way of making that happen. The new “fit” has to feel right and it has to feel positive and in no way a sacrifice. If you get this bit right it can be just as easy to quit on fifty a day as five a day. Equally, if you don’t get it right it can be a real struggle to quit on five a day. Sometimes simple repetition can help and if it’s appropriate, you may be given a CD to listen to when going to sleep.
Your imagination can both liberate and restrict you. By framing the outcome in a totally positive light your chances of attaining the goal you desire are enormously increased.
